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What is an appropriate gift when visiting an Iraqi refugee family?

A Kurdish Iraqi refugee family has invited my husband and me to visit this evening. They were so gracious when I met them last night, I'd like to take a little something for them when we visit. Does anyone know the culture well enough to offer a good suggestion?

Public Comments

1. If you are in America, it would be quite polite to bring them a traditional American gift, such as wine or flowers. But if you wish to acclimatize them to true American hospitality, then you would invite them to your home next for a dinner. The Iraqi culture is very big on hospitality, and they would appreciate that.
2. How about an american dish. Something pretty bland because they may not be used to some of the spices we have. I'm thinking Pasta salad, Potato salad, Mashed potatoes, Roasted chicken or turkey. It may sound pretty boring, but considering they've probally never had it before, It might just be alright!
3. If they are Muslim, not wine....and I'm not sure what their cultural expectations would be as to that sort of "hostess" gift----but I am sure they will knock themselves out cooking for you, and your pleasure in the food would be the best return gift. I'm thinking that if they are refugees they may still be furnishing their home, so maybe something useful like a kitchen towel and oven mitt set, or something like that would be welcome. I also like giving books as gifts, or calendars, or things like that. One thing you might want to be aware of is that in some Middle Eastern homes, the tradition is to leave your street shoes at the door, and put on slippers. So, not knowing whether this is the case with this family, wear nice socks(!), and look for signs of this being the family custom at the front door....they would never dream of asking you to change, but if it seems to be what they do themselves, your polite willingness would be accepted and appreciated. Sometimes it works better to give the hostess gift after you have already visited the home, as then you know the favorite colors or styles of your host/hostess. You could do it when you send a thank you note. I agree with your other answer that the best gift is your reciprocating, and befriending them.